Shouldn't-be-hot take: gender is a social construct and a class. if you turn it into a law-backed custom title kindly fuck you. sometimes "deconstruction" is plain and lazy ignorance
make an effort people
good endgame: everyone slowly destructing gender as classes, forms that ask you for only pronouns next to the name with the possibility to add items. People trying to guess yours in person and reacting nicely when you correct them.
bad endgame: forms that ask you for a gender name, cis men putting memes in it because they get to be bored and idiotic at the same time, gender being turned into a brand new oppressive abstract social construct.
i'm enby and i find all of that purely masturbatory.
what i *need* is for people to stop coercing me into gender-specific things and assuming my name and pronouns without any easy way for me to tell them it's not. what i *really need* is proper healthcare and less obvious transphobia.
i don't *need* my gender to be fully described or understood by anyone. i just want them to use my fucking name
@CobaltVelvet The specifics of one's gender aren't critical identifying information! Just like sexuality!! Why don't people get this!!
@Skirmisher @CobaltVelvet no, but expression in identity can be a guiding and binding element. Supporting socialising and sharing.
Gender is an odd construct, used in identity, sadly linked to bodies, and carries a lot of misinformation. But like many elements in current society, it has a use and is hard to replace. People resonate to it by lack of something better. Rome was build in a day and wasn't destroyed in a day. Socialized constructs run deep.